Painful Sex.

Painful Sex. Pain during sex carries a lot of shame and embarrassment. It can be hard to understand; "What's wrong with me? Why is this happening? Why now?" are common questions. In our culture, we generally believe that vaginal sex should ONLY be pleasurable, and, if it isn't pleasurable, something…

Out of Control Sexual Behavior

Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior You've been told that you have a porn addiction or sex addiction. Perhaps, your partner has made it vehemently clear, "Do it again and I'm' gone!" Now, you're questioning whether they're right, and you're afraid of what would happen if nothing changes. Porn It's been a slow…

Relationship Assessment

Okay. Pull up a chair. It’s about to get real. You’ll dive into your relationship, get some clarity and perhaps identify a direction for you and your partner. First, you’ll answer questions about the health of your relationship, currently. There are 16 questions; these questions are designed specifically to determine…

An Interview by Rebecca Wong, host of “Practice of Being Seen.”

In December 2017, Rebecca Wong of Practice of Being Seen interviewed me about marriage, increasing intimacy vs closeness, and my approach--carefrontation. You'll learn more about what my clients can expect when working with me. Carefrontation: Dr. Murray's approach. Tom tells Rebecca about his “carefrontational” approach with clients and how he…

Rebuilding Your Sex Life after Breast Cancer:

After you get a breast cancer diagnosis, sex is the the last thing on your mind. More, it's likely to find its way to the back of the burner once chemo and radiation start. In addition, many find that mastectomies change how they view their bodies and experience themselves as…